For years I misunderstood the word "singleness" until I studied it with a kingdom mindset, thanks to my friend Dr. Munroe. There is a myth or an erroneous concept of singleness. As a matter of fact, people do not have a "singleness problem". They have an entirely different problem called "being single". Some of the things that you read may surprise you, but please keep reading.
Let us consider the concept of that ever-abiding concern which seems to control and influence so many lives, "singleness". The question is, what is singleness? What does it mean to be single? Any dictionary definition will have these words or synonyms for them: to be separate, unique and whole. Would you want to stop being a whole or unique individual? Would you want to lose your identity? Of course not. So what is the problem with singleness? There is no problem. The problem is with our definition, which has been given to us by a cultural socio-economic system under the rulership of satan, the god of this "world order". Read what God's Constitution states: whose minds the god of this age has blinded, who do not believe, lest the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine on them. The world's definition which the church has adopted, opens the door to hurt, rejection and even self-hatred. We have confused "singleness" with "being alone". Will there ever be a time, has there ever been a time, when you will cease to be "separate, unique and whole"? If your answer is "no" then the next question is, Does getting married do away with this definition of being single? When you get married, do you stop being a single individual who is unique and whole? God's Constitution does not teach that singleness is bad, negative or unhealthy.
If a state of "singleness" means "to be unique and whole", then to be totally single should be every Kingdom Citizen's number one goal. Now, here is a statement that you should understand: Until you are separate, single, unique and a whole individual, you actually are not ready to get married. For example: Before a man gets married, he should have work, not get work. The woman is a man's helper. In order for her to help him, he must first be in his purpose in order for her to assist him. He can't be doing nothing.
II Corinthians 4:4