My wife and I are single; that is a paradox. If you are able to catch hold of this revelation of the difference between being single and being alone, you will never again despise the state of being unmarried. I learned it and so must you. Also, you will not marry or encourage others to get married, based on wrong reasons. The church today is suffering from confusion among young and old alike. divorced and widowed, and those who are unhappy with their marriage because of misunderstanding this concept. There are many pastors and congregations who pressure unmarried individuals in their churches to stop being alone, when the people have not yet achieved the state of being single! The result is more unhappy marriages and more divorces.
Remember the primary thing you need to understand from God's Constitution is that when God observed that it was not good for Adam to be alone, Adam was totally whole (Eve was taken from him), totally unique and totally separate. He didn't know that he even needed someone to assist him. Remember Adam had work and responsibility before he had a companion. And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.
Here is my advice to you. Until you get to that state, you aren't ready to stop being alone. This is what happened to me before I met and married Arlene. "In other words, God stated, 'It is not good for a man to be alone if he is single". That means, you do not need to get married until you are truly a single person. You are better off alone, if you are not yet single, if you are not yet unique, separate and whole. Remember, after God presented (meaning, put on display) Eve to Adam, then Adam chose to take her and to give himself to her. At that stage, Adam was qualified to give himself away. Remember, first things first.