How can you be an effective individual and single? There are several gifts that Adam received from His Creator. They are our legacy as human beings as well. That which was last or distorted through Adam's sin of disobedience was restored through the blood of Jesus the Christ. The first gift that God gave to us as humans was an image of Himself. You do not need to seek an image of someone else; but find who you are...meaning find yourself. You need first to be secure in your own self-image and that is only found in King Jesus. You are a reflection of Christ. If you do not know who you are, or if you have a poor sense of self-worth, you have not tapped into God's nature within you and will probably be a liability to anyone you should marry. Now to marry without a strong sense of self-worth and personal identity means that you will spend your life trying to become someone else. That usually means by attaching yourself to your spouse's identity. My wife Arlene and I are one, but we both have our own identity. When it comes to God's Word, principles, precepts and character; we are on point. Keep in mind, if your spouse has an identity problem, then you have double trouble. You need to know who you are and be secure and complete as well as whole within yourself before you get married and mess up someone else's life. If you know who you are, if you have a good self-image; you won't need anyone in order to be someone. By the way, if you read and study God's Constitution all that you need to know is found in it. once again, I refer you to these words: "But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added to you". I just want to remind you, Jesus said seek the Kingdom, not the Holy Spirit.