When you give thoughts to marriage, you must be very careful how you choose your "running mate". It is similar to choosing a candidate for vice president. You both must be of the same mind. Choose your wife or your husband, in terms of til death do you part. Men, you are a cultivator of your wife and family. You and your wife are to be on the same page at all times.
Remember this one thing: If your wife is motivated by sensual needs and worldly desires when you first meet her, then you have to feed into that emotional part of her. While she is your wife, unless she is converted to the kingdom mindset, the husband is to cultivate his wife. By doing so, they both will have the same mindset. Remember what God's Constitution states: "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" There are so many pastors and leaders that are catering to their wives sinful desires. To the point that they are missing God's message for their lives. Do you know of someone in that situation? They have become unstable in all their ways. Many of us get married before we have a solid concept of the kingdom. Keep in mind, you got married while you were unbelievers. One of you got converted and the other remained the same. Maybe even worse. Remember, the king wants us to be of one mind. "Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement". Always remember, if you are considering a life-long partner, keep in line with the Word of God. Never allow your feelings dictate your selection or judgment.
II Corinthians 6:14 I Corinthians 1:10