When seeking a mate, remember this: being with someone who is quarrelsome, nagging and has a steady stream of unwanted advice is a form of torture. People nag because they think they are not getting through to you. They think they aren't being heard. But nagging hinders communication more than it helps. When you are tempted to engage in this destructive habit, stop and examine your motives. Are you more concerned about yourself, getting your way, or being right, than about the person you are pretending to help? If you are truly concerned about other people, think of a more effective way to get through to them. Surprise them with words of patience and love, see things from their perspective and see what happens.
Another way to assure your wife that she his getting your attention and being heard is to stop everything that you are doing, turning off the TV if necessary, and look and listen to what she is saying to you. It works for me all the time. Arlene is definitely not nagging, but she certainly appreciates my undivided attention when she is trying to share something with me. Clear communication is vital to a great relationship. Get your priorities in order.