In today's "free" society staying faithful to the one we love must be intentional. It is naive to say we--or our spouse--could never be tempted. We all have seen far too many great men and women of faith give in to their desires even though they had far more to lose than we do. They were deceived into believing their sin would never be exposed. That game is fixed and Satan always wins. Yet people play this game everyday, thinking they are the ones who won't get caught!
This isn't about controlling your spouse or becoming a private detective! Not at all. This is about a husband and wife being a united front, agreeing on a plan to never allow a hole in the spiritual hedge that surrounds their marriage and their family... that they will both guard their marriage diligently. Here are some suggestions to use in your plan to remove Satan's power from your marriage:
1. Be an open book! If there are no lies, if nothing is done in secret, you have nothing to hide and nothing to fear. If you are truly "one" why would you keep secrets?
2. Cell phones: Each of you should be free to answer the other's phone calls and texts. When you are home, set your phone down on a nearby table. When it rings or you receive a text, if your spouse is nearby, ask them to get it for you. This builds trust also!
3. Exchange user names and passwords for your emails and Facebook accounts. You should have freedom on each other's accounts without fearing what they will find! Again, it's not about snooping! It's about being open with each other.
4. Now a word about Facebook: Facebook affairs are notorious. When a couple is going through difficult days, the flattery and attention of a "Facebook friend" of the opposite sex can tempt you to say and do what you would never do when your marriage is going smoothly. Share user names and passwords. Better yet, if agreeable to you both, have one page together as a couple.
5. Do you really need IM? If you use it to communicate with close friends and family, then keep it only available to those few people. When I got married, I uninstalled my messenger software. I used it while I was dating and didn't want any old "flames" contacting me after I married. We really didn't need to IM! :)
6. One simple rule to remember: Always imagine your spouse is sitting with you, watching whatever you are doing on your cell phone or computer. If you wouldn't want them to see/hear it, don't do it!
As Joyce Meyer says... the battle is in the mind! Be enlightened and don't make your mind the devil's playground.
What is more important than your spouse and children? Secrets? Innocent flirtations? Brief moments of excitement? Live a life that is above reproach... be guided by God's word and protect those who are most precious to you.
Be blessed.... Arlene <3