I want to share with you a quote from a man that has definitely had an impact in my life. "Singleness is a state to be pursued, not avoided. To be single should be the goal of every married person". Dr. Myles Munroe
Do you catch hold of this revelation of the difference between being single and being alone? I spoke on this in one of my earlier articles. When you do, you will never again despise the state of being unmarried. Also, you will not marry or encourage others to marry, based on wrong reasons.
The church today is suffering from confusion among young and old, divorced and widowed, and those who are unhappily married, because of the misunderstanding the concept of singleness. Many pastors and congregations pressure our young people in their churches to stop being alone, when the individuals have not yet achieved the state of being single! The result is more unhappy marriages and more divorces. I use this phrase "our young people" because we as elders should direct the young adults as well as our teenagers in the right direction. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
The primary thing that we need to understand from God's Constitution, is that when God observed that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone, Adam was totally whole (Eve was taken out of him). He was totally unique and totally separate. He (meaning Adam) was unaware that he needed anyone else. Believe me when I state this: until you get to that state, you are not ready to stop being alone. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. That breath of life was the Spirit of God. In essence, it isn't good for a man to be alone if he is single. That means, you do not need to marry anyone until you are truly a single individual. You are better off alone, if you have not yet arrived at being single--unique, separate and whole.
If you are unaware who you are yet, what are you going to give to someone else? If you do not know how much of a single individual you are yet, how much are you going to give to someone else? The most dangerous thing in the area of marriage is for a sick individual to marry another sick individual. Therefore, it is more important to be "single" than to be married. I will even make a stronger statement: It is a much "safer" to be unmarried than married if you are not yet single. Please note: some individuals believe that when they get married, they have solved their problem of being alone. However, some of the loneliest people in this world are in marriages.
I trust, now you understand what it is to be truly single.
Proverbs 22:6 Genesis 2:7
~~W.R. Luchie
Do you catch hold of this revelation of the difference between being single and being alone? I spoke on this in one of my earlier articles. When you do, you will never again despise the state of being unmarried. Also, you will not marry or encourage others to marry, based on wrong reasons.
The church today is suffering from confusion among young and old, divorced and widowed, and those who are unhappily married, because of the misunderstanding the concept of singleness. Many pastors and congregations pressure our young people in their churches to stop being alone, when the individuals have not yet achieved the state of being single! The result is more unhappy marriages and more divorces. I use this phrase "our young people" because we as elders should direct the young adults as well as our teenagers in the right direction. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
The primary thing that we need to understand from God's Constitution, is that when God observed that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone, Adam was totally whole (Eve was taken out of him). He was totally unique and totally separate. He (meaning Adam) was unaware that he needed anyone else. Believe me when I state this: until you get to that state, you are not ready to stop being alone. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. That breath of life was the Spirit of God. In essence, it isn't good for a man to be alone if he is single. That means, you do not need to marry anyone until you are truly a single individual. You are better off alone, if you have not yet arrived at being single--unique, separate and whole.
If you are unaware who you are yet, what are you going to give to someone else? If you do not know how much of a single individual you are yet, how much are you going to give to someone else? The most dangerous thing in the area of marriage is for a sick individual to marry another sick individual. Therefore, it is more important to be "single" than to be married. I will even make a stronger statement: It is a much "safer" to be unmarried than married if you are not yet single. Please note: some individuals believe that when they get married, they have solved their problem of being alone. However, some of the loneliest people in this world are in marriages.
I trust, now you understand what it is to be truly single.
Proverbs 22:6 Genesis 2:7
~~W.R. Luchie
