King Solomon made this statement in God's Constitution: A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. In essence, if you are lonely, it is because you aren't a friendly individual. If you are lonely, you are "sick" because God created man to be whole in his aloneness, not a lonely person, not a person yearning for someone else to make him or her whole. You find many individuals who state they are looking for someone to complete them. My advice, (Run). If you are lonely, find someone else who is alone (not half empty) and make friends. By the way, it won't be easy. Begin to reach out to others who are unmarried like yourself. There are people by the hundreds in churches who stand in the congregations across this country who lift their hands to praise and worship, but stand in loneliness and go home lonely.
Now, loneliness is a sickness that comes from not understanding who you are and from being afraid or too proud to make close friends. A person whose "walls" are whole and intact can feel safe in opening doors to others for companionship. You can tell whether you are a whole individual by how well you keep company with yourself. Some people are afraid to be alone. They always want other people around them because they don't like themselves, or they are so empty that they have to live their lives through others. Sad, but true. When these individuals are home alone, they have the radio or television on or are watching a video or perhaps reading. This is because their emptiness must be filled with something or somebody outside themselves. On the other hand, an attitude of isolation and of being a "hermit" is a sign of a different kind of sickness. Both extremes are evidence of a person who is not yet whole and unique, not yet really single. A happily married man or woman is still single (whole and unique). The problem is we are born empty and some of the junk with which we have filled ourselves should not be in there. This is why I constantly state "many of us have to be detoxed first from those religious concepts, before we can embrace the Kingdom concept". It is going to take a transformed mind. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
No one was born to be married; however, everyone was born not to be alone. There is no special anointing that comes with being in a marriage. Every human being is a "help-meet" for every other human being. Remember this, in the Kingdom of God, there are laws and principles that must be obeyed if we are to be in good standing with the King. There are no exceptions.
Proverbs 18:24 Romans 12:2
~~W.R. Luchie
Now, loneliness is a sickness that comes from not understanding who you are and from being afraid or too proud to make close friends. A person whose "walls" are whole and intact can feel safe in opening doors to others for companionship. You can tell whether you are a whole individual by how well you keep company with yourself. Some people are afraid to be alone. They always want other people around them because they don't like themselves, or they are so empty that they have to live their lives through others. Sad, but true. When these individuals are home alone, they have the radio or television on or are watching a video or perhaps reading. This is because their emptiness must be filled with something or somebody outside themselves. On the other hand, an attitude of isolation and of being a "hermit" is a sign of a different kind of sickness. Both extremes are evidence of a person who is not yet whole and unique, not yet really single. A happily married man or woman is still single (whole and unique). The problem is we are born empty and some of the junk with which we have filled ourselves should not be in there. This is why I constantly state "many of us have to be detoxed first from those religious concepts, before we can embrace the Kingdom concept". It is going to take a transformed mind. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
No one was born to be married; however, everyone was born not to be alone. There is no special anointing that comes with being in a marriage. Every human being is a "help-meet" for every other human being. Remember this, in the Kingdom of God, there are laws and principles that must be obeyed if we are to be in good standing with the King. There are no exceptions.
Proverbs 18:24 Romans 12:2
~~W.R. Luchie
